I got a dream job offer..afraid to take it :(

Hi folks, I am in need of advice. First, the good news . I am currently symptom free which is the best news of all. And second, out of the blue I got called to a job interview for a job I desperately wanted but didn’t think I would get! Now what to do with it…it is a fact that I will get my symptoms back at some point. Like a lot of you, I never know when or for how long I will have my MAV symptoms. So I’m debating on wether I should accept it or decline? Btw, I am a hair stylist and I have been longing to work this particular salon for many reasons. But it requires long hours on the feet, major cognition, being personable and creative, ALL things that are nearly impossible during an episode. I haven’t worked outside of my home office in years so I’m feeling nervous and unsure of what to do. Any advice? What do you all do for work and how do you cope?

I turned down a great job a couple of days ago, that I’d jumped through hoops to get. I turned it down not so much because of MAV, but my other, newer health problems and concerns over job security. I’m a police officer, though in name only these days (permanently restricted duties due to MAV). I’m also single and have a Sydney mortgage. No-one can decide this for you, it’s such an individual thing and so many variables. Good luck with your decision!

Congratulations on being symptom free and getting your dream job! Like Victoria said, it is such an individual decision. However, if it were me, I would take it. Being happy and excited in your work environment could really help your overall health. And you may have a lot of regret if you don’t accept it which could potentially turn into a downward spiral. That would most definitely affect your MAV! Go for it! You could always go back to working from home.

Best of luck. Cheers :smiley:

I agree with Mavprincess. You should take the job and enjoy while you can. You should also be upfront with the employer about MAV and maybe they adjust your workload as needed. Congrats and good luck with your decision.

mavprincess how are things going havent seen you on here for awhile!

I think . . . think . . . that if another dream job comes my way I will go all out for it; and then when it is offered or all-but-offered, say that I do have a medical ish that sometimes knocks me for a loop. I’m still pretty hot in terms of x,y,z, but I don’t want to start in with the bullshit of hiding this, even though legally I’m entitled to.

Might mean I wouldn’t get the job, might mean I’d get it and be able to breathe easier about “what if.”


In my view, if you were very far along (i.e. at the point where it was pretty clear you were the preferred candidate), and you made the disclosure to the prospective employer, they would be very skittish about declining you for the position. You have the advantage of living not only in the most litigious society in the world, but outside the city with the greatest per capita number of lawyers on the planet (I live in MD and work in DC as one of them). While the law might well allow a prospective employer to decide not to hire taking into account the potential impact of a known medical condition on job performance, many employers would not be willing to take the chance.

In any event, if you found out that a company you were considering casting your lot with was not going to hire you because of the possibility that you might need some scheduling flexibility because of an illness of this sort, is that the kind of group you would really want to make a commitment to long term?


I’d like to add that chronic migraine is a disability, you’re not allowed to be discriminated in the work place becasue of it. I lost my dream job because of this, and haven’t been able to work since, but as soon as i am able i will be back trying for my dream role again and i will make sure i have my rights as a chronic migraineur! x

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I’d like to add that chronic migraine is a disability, you’re not allowed to be discriminated in the work place becasue of it.

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Maybe, maybe not, WTC. At least under US law, disability is not measure by “what you have” but “how it affects you” and “how well it is documented.”

The following is a link to recent law on the subject for those interested:

sutherland.com/files/upload/ … daches.pdf