Joe,
Yes, it’s been real disappointing the way people have handled this. I totally lost one friend - she just thought I was being weak. “i have dizziness all the time and I just HAVE to keep going. I don’t have time to be bedridden” How sensitive, hu?
Another friend just got real nervous around me. I was always the dependable one in the relationship, she was more of the flake. We lost contact, until she found out I’m doing better. So as long as I don’t complain - i actually pretend that I’m better than I actually am - we’re okay.
A third friend just can’t mind her own business. She insists that I have Lyme disease and is always pushing me to go to her Lyme doctor. I’ve told her many times - I don’t need you to try to fix me, I just need you to stay connected with me, be a friend. She doesn’t get it.
Yes, you learn a lot about people when things are bad, don’t you.
I often say to my husband, I’m not sure how I would deal with it if the tables were turned. I think I would be frantic if he were this ill.
Julie