The answers are all over the site. Please use search. We don’t need another kitchen sink Topic answered only by those few currently visiting who’ve had success (the really successful ones are not here anymore, can you blame them?)
In meantime here’s the big med poll we did: POLL: The Big Med Poll: What is helping/helped you?
And look at the stories in #success-stories-positivity. Respond to one of them if you need more info from them. Maybe they will return and answer.
Look at #pro-tips, #user-polls and look at the #support-wiki